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Dr. Balis:
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Hello, you must be Nina Alvidrez. I didn't realize you were standing there. Please forgive my lack of attention. Please come in.
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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Hello.
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Dr. Balis:
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Won't you please have a seat?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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Um, okay. Where?
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Dr. Balis:
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I'm sorry? I can't hear you.
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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Where would you like me to sit?
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Dr. Balis:
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Wherever you feel the most comfortable, Ms. Alvidrez.
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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Thank you. Nina. Please call me Nina.
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Dr. Balis:
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Okay, Nina. I'm pleased to meet you. How may I help you?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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Um.
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Dr. Balis:
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Yes?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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Well, my mom thinks you can help me.
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Dr. Balis:
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How so, Nina?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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She wants me to keep my job.
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Dr. Balis:
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I see. Where do you work?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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At SII. I work with my mother.
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Dr. Balis:
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What do you do?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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I'm just a secretary.
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Dr. Balis:
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Have you worked there long?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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Just a month.
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Dr. Balis:
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Do you work directly with your mother?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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No, she has a good job working for Mr. Majors...sorry, I mean Mr. Major. She has been working for him for a long time. She arranged for my job.
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Dr. Balis:
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That was nice of her. Do you enjoy working near your mother?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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Oh yes. Mama is so wonderful. She is always so happy. She is like a little bird--she's always singing and flitting around.
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Dr. Balis:
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You seem quite fond of your mother.
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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Yes. I love her very much. I'm not her favorite, though.
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Dr. Balis:
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You have siblings?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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Yes, my sister Maria is the oldest. Then there's my sister Alba, then me, and then my brother Rico--he's the youngest.
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Dr. Balis:
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Nina, would you tell me about your job? What do you do there? How do you like it?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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Um, I answer the phone for Mr. Utterman and handle his correspondence. I filter out the sales calls and direct them to the proper sales person. I do other things like typing and filing. Mr. Utterman doesn't like me very much. I think I make too many mistakes and that upsets him.
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Dr. Balis:
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You think you make too many mistakes?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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Yes. This is my first real job, and it's real important to Mama that I do well. But...
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Dr. Balis:
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Why do you think it is so important to your mother?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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I want to make her proud of me.
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Dr. Balis:
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Yes. But that's not what you said. Why is it important to your mother that you do well? Is she...
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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Um, Doctor Balis?
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Dr. Balis:
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Yes?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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I'd like to go now. I don't really think this is a good idea.
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Dr. Balis:
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Why is that?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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I just...I have a hard time with new people, and you make me nervous. I'm sorry! I didn't mean to insult you. See? I just end up putting my foot in my mouth and making things worse all the time.
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Dr. Balis:
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Don't worry about insulting me, Nina. I'm a very easy-going person. I understand that sometimes a first therapy session is very hard for people. It's not always easy to meet new people, therapists in particular; it can often be scary. But we can take it very slowly and go at your pace. So let's give it another try. Okay?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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I don't...is it scary for you, too?
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Dr. Balis:
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Sometimes it is. But I remind myself that once I get past the hard part of meeting a person, I can anticipate learning new things from them. You can think of new friendships as adventures.
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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Adventures?
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Dr. Balis:
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Well, just think of all the things you can learn from a new person. By spending time together, you can share with another person who you are and they can share with you.
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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Hmm. That is an interesting way of looking at it.
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Dr. Balis:
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I would like for you to come back again next week so we can continue working together. Okay?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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Next week? Oh, no! I couldn't do that.
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Dr. Balis:
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I see. Why don't we schedule an appointment for every other week then? It will be just one hour every two weeks. That's all right, isn't it?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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I guess I can do that.
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Dr. Balis:
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Wonderful. How about this same time, but two weeks from now, okay?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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All right. But I really do need to go now, Doctor Balis.
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Dr. Balis:
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Okay. But in the future, we will need to finish a full session. That's one hour, all right?
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Ms. Alvidrez:
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Okay. Goodbye.
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Dr. Balis:
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Goodbye, Nina.
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Doctor Balis' Notes on this Session
Transcripts of Nina Alvidrez's Communications
